Let’s get real for a moment: Once you’ve been huffing and puffing for 40-plus years, you’ve earned some serious stripes.
By now, you’ve probably survived everything from bad relationships to bad jobs, and crazy friends to complex family relationships.
In other words, you’ve earned wisdom that you didn’t have when you were younger.
For this reason, dating tips that apply to people in their 20s and 30s don’t always apply to the over 40 crowd.
But according to TODAY’s “This is 50” survey results, only 18 percent of single people in their 50s said they were dating.
Yet the Radio 4 programme made no reference to the thousands of people for whom dates are like needles in haystacks.
How women present themselves is a topic about which I can speak more knowledgeably.
First, it would appear that, upon reaching a certain age, women in the Boston area are required to sign up for yoga. Many grown women for some reason also make a point of referring to themselves as “girls,” sometimes even working this word into their user names.
Advertisement What makes online dating so frustrating isn’t the exaggeration, it’s that you’re participating in a depressing hierarchy of desirability — a daisy chain of quiet rejection. We have the luxury of being less goal-oriented, the same way we’ve learned to be about sex.
You spend part of your time trying to recover from, and make sense of, all these potentially lovely people who won’t give you the time of day, then the rest flicking off people in whom you have no interest. In theory, though, it should at least be less uncomfortably urgent for those of us of a certain age: somewhere between the first biological clock (gotta reproduce! We can treat the process itself — the search, the exchange of messages, the one-off dinners — as intellectually intriguing, diverting, amusing, and perhaps even a path toward self-knowledge.