Dating is an important and necessary ritual for singles of all ages.When two people are in a relationship, the value of dating lies in allowing them to get to know one another through various activities.These ideas are suited for every stage of a relationship.
A few years ago I went out of my way, searched high and low and spent far too much of my paycheck on a thoughtful gift for a guy I had been casually dating for several months (he kept saying didn’t want to “rush it”). Now, I realize some of you may be scoffing, saying to yourself, these ideas suck! Above all, keep in mind that while gift giving to new flames can be stressful, it is indeed a problem of the first world order. The whole ordeal just adds insult to injury, as dating someone new is uncomfortable enough under normal circumstances. You’re only barely acquainted with this individual, so how the hell are you to know what they would even like? Pick a non-romantic genre, like comedy, action or hardcore porn (yes, that last one was a joke – can we get a sarcasm font up in here? A few weeks before, feel it out with a casual “So, what’s on your Christmas list? And it should be a thought that lasted more than three seconds, because ladies want to know that you’ve put a modicum of effort into selecting something just for her that you felt she would appreciate. Of course, since she is still not your “official” girlfriend, you don’t want to go hell bent bonkers either. If she’s into clean living, organic stuff is a good bet. Oh, and in one other situation: when it’s holiday time and you’re in a relationship that has yet to be defined as the ever-elusive “exclusive.” In this case, the entire gift-giving jam can be as awkward as one of Uncle Len’s “accidental” ass grabs during Thanksgiving dinner. (Yes.) But around tinsel time, yet another question gets thrown onto the pile of uncertainties, and it’s a biggie: Am I expected to proffer a gift to my not-quite-significant other, and if so, what am I supposed to get? Remember, you can always add BJ coupons if necessary. If it’s been more than three months and you have still not had the exclusivity talk, it’s hard to tell what he’s thinking. But truthfully, for women (okay, women), the thought actually IS the key to finding the right gift. Remember these little nuggets and use them to inform your choice of gift. For example, “I know you’ve been super stressed at work, so I thought you could use a little pampering.” Or, “I remember you mentioned how much you love lavender, so I’d hoped you would enjoy this lavender massage lotion.” 2. Again, this would only apply if she is a wine aficionado. If she burns candles every time you go to her place, get her some fancy scented candles.Dating someone, whether it's been a week, a year or a lifetime, is complicated. How do you know if you are at the point in your relationship where you will exchange gifts?And how can you be sure that you aren’t getting too personal, too soon?