Luckily, my family was great from the very beginning.
My sister shocked me by being delighted with yet another opportunity from Auntie Anya to teach her seven-year-old daughter that people live all sorts of different ways, and that happiness is where you find it and can’t be defined in rigid terms.
and others forming stable bonds among three, four or five partners simultaneously.
The latter is a version of polyamory, relationships in which people have multiple partnerships at once with the full knowledge of all involved.
Whether they are deeply involved in an activity or hobby, work very long hours, find their own internal experience to be particularly gripping, or that they are simply not “wired” for primary partnership, the allure of autonomy draws some solo polys to become their own primaries rather than establishing a primary partnership with someone else.
For other solo polys, the expectations associated with primary partnership can feel suffocating or leaden.
Ultimately, however, the solo poly generally assumes full personal responsibility without asking others’ permission.
The boundaries in these relationships are remarkably varied, with some couples negotiating one-off "swinging" or partner-swapping experiences.The old dynamic that the dyad or the single woman had cannot continue because the relationship status is no longer a dyad or a single woman.Some people in the “unicorn hunt” treat the search for a woman like shopping.Solo polyamory is a fluid category that covers a range of relationships, from the youthful “free agent” or recent divorcee who might want to “settle down” some day but for now wants to play the field with casual, brief, no-strings-attached connections, to the seasoned “solo poly” who has deeply committed, intimate, and lasting relationships with one or more people.Some solo polys have relationships that they consider emotionally primary, but not primary in a logistical, rank, or rules-based sense, and others don’t want the kinds of expectations and limitations that come with a primary romantic/sexual relationship.