I'm not trying to convince you not to want a boyfriend. God has designed us so that as we mature we begin to long for deep, caring and sexual relations with a member of the opposite sex.The fundamental longing is to be expressed in marriage. I've become very jealous of those in relationships. What you're feeling is natural, but I have to say it's off the mark. I've seen way too many relationships to think that!
And the lighthouses of my world are big, sexy, maneaters. I said: "The Bermuda Triangle." The Bermuda Triangle is so far from sailors' minds that it isn't even really on the map. Even if a few of them knew, theoretically, that the Bermuda Triangle was out there, they wouldn't be able to find it if they wanted to. And then it gets embarrassed and sad and calls its friends.
I would like to tell you about a theory I've developed, in the past two years or so, about a certain brand of people I like to call "lighthouses." This theory was developed after years spent in the company of one such member of the species, carefully observed in her natural habitat. Rylee, since the time I met her seven years ago, has dated nine people. When she's single, Rylee hardly needs to leave the apartment (or, in some of those cases, dormitory building) before anywhere from one to four different guys profess an interest in being her next boyfriend. She'll make her interests known, of course, but she always has options.
You might as well know that now because she's going to come up a lot. But what's really crazy, what's really impressive about it, is her lack of time off between boyfriends.
This is what I like to call being "a lighthouse." Lighthouse people are beacons that call all the sailors in ships back to land, beckoning them in toward the light. In fact, I think that's probably what the Bermuda Triangle is up to.
Lighthouse people are magnetic and luminescent, so much so that even when one sailor manages to row all the way to land and climbs up into the lighthouse, the rest of the sailors will stay out there on the water, waiting for their chance to come to shore. For instance, there isn't anything about me that is analogous to the Bermuda Triangle's "rogue wave" phenomenon (at least I hope there isn't). It doesn't mean to do any harm, and it's actually pretty nice once you get to know it.