There are too many guys out there who just don’t want a commitment, and as a woman who wants a relationship, I can’t help but think that their attitude towards serious love is stupid.
As a veteran of dating guys who just hate commitment with a passion, I’ve always wanted to tell some of my exes certain things that they should have been smart enough to know.
Commitment phobia is something I see in my office often and happens to both women and men. This is often not conscious and going on at the deepest level of the sub consciousness.
You can spot a commitment-phobe a mile away only if you know what you are looking for.
Usually the art of pushing and pulling and seduction are the domain of the commitment “phobe.” The answer dwells deeply in the family of origin survival patterns. People who are commitment phobic feel they need to cut off their feelings after a certain point of knowing someone as a means of feeling in control and feeling emotionally protected.
Here are 10 things commitment-phobic men should know about what they’re doing to themselves.
You’re losing out on good women who would value your need for freedom.
Ultimately, their sense of dread about making a commitment becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and the relationships they pursue are doomed.
Sad though the situation is, if you’re hoping for long-term love but are dating a commitment-phobe you’re probably better off out of the relationship.